Homestudy Visit Numero Uno

We had our first visit last Monday afternoon and it went really well. Our SW was very sweet and commented on how nice the house looked - and that she hoped I hadn't spent hours cleaning for the visit (of course I did).

She did a walk-through of the house, including each bedroom and the basement. She was mostly looking for overt hazards and making sure we knew what to baby-proof in the future. She checked carefully for fire extinguishers and smoke alarms (which we also tested for her to see if they worked) and exit locations. Luckily, Colorado uses a standard form for the home safety inspection that we had ahead of time - so we knew what to prepare for.

The second part of the visit was the first joint interview of 3 that we need to do (we also do 2 individual interviews). The questions were pretty much what a lot of us here have heard about in the past: describe your infertility, what interventions did you try, how have you grieved your infertility, etc. Usually I can talk about our IF without getting too emotional, but I did break down when I had to list out the dates of the MC. I kept 2 small date books (over 2 years) with all my cycle info and had to pull them out to give her the dates. For some reason, this was really hard and I started crying - but SW was very understanding and kind about it.

She also asked us about each other; what are our strengths and weaknesses were, how we met, and other relationship-type stuff. Overall, it was pretty straightforward and it didn't seem like the goal was to grill us - just get to know us.

Luckily, we were able to schedule our next round of interviews, so it looks like we'll have the homestudy in hand by the end of May. Which means we might be ready to accept a placement by June! We're still waiting to hear back on some fingerprinting (this takes soooo long!) and our neighbor reference (a whole other story).

Interestingly, the individual interviews are scheduled back-to-back and we can't talk to each other in between. I can't wait to see what those questions are like!