And now we wait. . .

Well, we got our homestudy completed last week. Now begins the 6 to 18 month wait for a placement. It was actually pretty anticlimactic, to tell the truth. We looked over the homestudy report that the social worker wrote about us to identify any misspellings or errors and that was it.

In celebration, I've spent almost $700 on baby gear in the past week. Hurray for shopping! I'm trying not to go crazy, but I wanted to round up the basics - pack-n-play, car seat and stroller system, some bottles and a simple layette of onesies and socks and stuff. My mom helped me shop at Babies R Us the other day - which was good because I pretty much had a panic attack in the bottles and feeding section of the store. I think it was just from the overwhelming number of choices and hopefully it doesn't signify a more deep-seated anxiety about the process moving forward. Here's the stroller and car seat we got:

It's a Chicco KeyFit 30 and Cortina stroller. I bought the matching pack-n-play they make, too:

I know that we will be parents in the sorta near future, but it all just feels so surreal and nebulous now. I hate feeling so out of control about such a major part of our lives. All I can do for now is scour the internet and ogle all the great stuff I get to buy that, hopefully, I'll actually get to use someday.

And still waiting. . .

Well, we heard from our social worker at the agency today and she has finished writing our homestudy. But, we STILL have not gotten back darling hubby's background check!!!! The agency was checking into this weeks ago and told us it was done, but they still don't have the results in the mail. Good grief! We submitted the fingerprints at the beginning of the year - first set in January and again in February. This is just ridiculous!!

Unfortunately, the agency can't technically approve us and put us on the waitlist until the background check is in hand because the info has to be written into the homestudy. Whatever. So, we continue to wait.

In other news, we got the rest of the interior of our house painted. It came out really pretty and I was pleased with the color selections we made. The nursery is epecially cute - the color is Recycled Glass by Sherwin-Williams. It goes well with the nursery decorations I've picked out so far. We also got our concrete pathway installed on the side of the house. The price for the job was great, but they pretty much wrecked all of our weed barrier in the area around the path. So, all of that needs to be redone and then we have to move the river rock back into those spots. Hurray for manual labor!

I'm looking forward to having our house "done." All that's left (for this year) is to get the concrete landscape borders done in the front and then I need to make the curtains for our family room. That should keep me out of trouble for a week, at least!

And I'm starting to get the urge to buy baby stuff. It's such an odd impulse - the compulsive planner in me wants to get everything ready as soon as possible, but another part of me wants to put it off as long as reasonable possible. Maybe that's why I'm coming up with all this stuff to do around the house. Hmmmmm. . .

That's all for now, folks. Oh, and I can't forget a shout-out to my (sorta) niece Megan who is turning 7 tomorrow!!

If you like a Frosty, please stop by Wendy's on Saturday, June 20th, or Sunday, June 21st, to enjoy one this weekend. When you do, Wendy's will donate 50 cents for each Frosty purchased to help kids in foster care.

Still waiting. But that's OK. . .

No news yet on the homestudy approval. We finished up the last of the interviews in May and all went smoothly. Hubby's background check FINALLY came back, but my Mom's is missing in action. Now they'll just have to do the old-fashioned name check because we've already sent in fingerprints for my Mom twice. Hopefully, this won't drag out the process. Honestly - a more than four month turnaround for a background check?? Ridonkulous!

I actually did buy some baby stuff the other day. We are going with the Carter's Forest Friends theme for the nursery. We thought it was really cute and had the added bonus of being gender-neutral. I really hadn't planned on buying any of this type of thing before the homestudy was done. But, we are getting the entire house (interior) painted this week and I wanted to make sure I picked a matching color for the nursery. So, I bought the crib set, valances, a lamp, and some wall decals. The first $300 of many thousands I am sure I will spend on gear once I have that homestudy approval in my hot little hands!

I also finished our adoption profile book - and I'm quite happy with the result. I bought 1 copy of the version I had completed so that I could see what the actual product looked like. I am glad I did this - while it was beautiful, I definitely found a few things to improve on text layouts for easier reading and better flow of the background colors on the pages. I am probably going way overboard on this silly book, but it keeps me busy and is the only thing the birthparents may see to make a decision about entrusting us with their child. Now I need to order 10 more copies for distribution to the agency and our attorney. Luckily, they are on sale 20% off!

I've decided to expand this little blog somewhat to start incorporating some helpful stuff for other adoptive parents. We've noticed more traffic on the Nest/Bump Adoption page and I'd like to help out other folks looking for information if they happen across my little corner of the web.

Shooting for mid-June approval. . .

We had the second of our joint interviews with the SW today and all went smoothly. So far, the interview process has been fairly painless. The conversations with the SW have been low-key - just getting to know about us as individuals and as a couple. SW is pretty good at identifying areas she thinks might be difficult for us (adjusting to sleep deprivation, etc.) and gave us some advice for books and resources on a few topics.

We also scheduled our last interview!!! We are really starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel with this process. Allowing time for the SW to write our homestudy, then another meeting to go over it with us, we should be officially waiting sometime in June. I was really worried that hubby's impromptu trip to Scotland tomorrow was going to hold up the presses, but it all seems to be working out.

Which is great, because I have a TON of stuff I want to get done around the house. I've already gotten one quote for painting the rest of the interior and have another scheduled next week. We also need to get some concrete work done in the front yard (landscape edging and a new pathway from the driveway to our backyard), so I have contractors coming out to bid that stuff, too.

After the house projects are done, I think I might start working on preparing for a baby. That sounds so weird and distant, but I probably need to start thinking about having at least some stuff ready in case we get "the call." We've also decided to cloth diaper - instead of using disposables. I'm not sure how well it will go, but I want to give this a legitimate effort. I'm hoping to build up a nice little collection of diapers and supplies while I have some time to kill. Luckily, lots of gals on The Nest have given me some great advice and websites to check out for ideas.

I've been really encouraged by all the happy endings for my sisters on the Web - The Nesties saw a number of placements in the last couple of weeks. Hopefully, it's just a matter of time for us, too.

Homestudy Visit Numero Uno

We had our first visit last Monday afternoon and it went really well. Our SW was very sweet and commented on how nice the house looked - and that she hoped I hadn't spent hours cleaning for the visit (of course I did).

She did a walk-through of the house, including each bedroom and the basement. She was mostly looking for overt hazards and making sure we knew what to baby-proof in the future. She checked carefully for fire extinguishers and smoke alarms (which we also tested for her to see if they worked) and exit locations. Luckily, Colorado uses a standard form for the home safety inspection that we had ahead of time - so we knew what to prepare for.

The second part of the visit was the first joint interview of 3 that we need to do (we also do 2 individual interviews). The questions were pretty much what a lot of us here have heard about in the past: describe your infertility, what interventions did you try, how have you grieved your infertility, etc. Usually I can talk about our IF without getting too emotional, but I did break down when I had to list out the dates of the MC. I kept 2 small date books (over 2 years) with all my cycle info and had to pull them out to give her the dates. For some reason, this was really hard and I started crying - but SW was very understanding and kind about it.

She also asked us about each other; what are our strengths and weaknesses were, how we met, and other relationship-type stuff. Overall, it was pretty straightforward and it didn't seem like the goal was to grill us - just get to know us.

Luckily, we were able to schedule our next round of interviews, so it looks like we'll have the homestudy in hand by the end of May. Which means we might be ready to accept a placement by June! We're still waiting to hear back on some fingerprinting (this takes soooo long!) and our neighbor reference (a whole other story).

Interestingly, the individual interviews are scheduled back-to-back and we can't talk to each other in between. I can't wait to see what those questions are like!